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The post in which I get myself in trouble again. Discrimination…What the hell?

So, life has been challenging as of late and blogging has fallen off my radar, but recent goings on in the good old US of A have my blood boiling.

You know, every time I think “wow, things are changing so much for the LGBT community and equality seems to be making its way forward around the world” something happens to remind me how far there still is to go.

So, the thing that’s getting to me is this religious discrimination law in Indiana. And this is where I get myself into trouble. I have people whom I love dearly whose faith in God is the thing that gets them through life’s trials. I sometimes envy them that faith because it helps them when times are tough but as much as I’ve tried, I just can’t go along with their way of thinking. I don’t judge them for it, or look down on them for it and I’m more than happy to agree to disagree on the subject because in the end, the thing I do believe in is treating people the way I want to be treated. I think the world would be a much better place if everyone could just get that through their head.

But of course, there’s always those people who don’t have room in their minds and their hearts for a live-and-let-live attitude and it’s something that just pisses me off to no end.

I have so much to say, but getting it organized in my head isn’t always easy so I’m going to start here:

It strikes me as funny that these people who are so determined to have these laws to protect religious freedom don’t seem to understand that theirs isn’t the only religion. These people wanted the right to refuse service to the LGBT community based on their religious beliefs and now they have it. (I’m a little curious about how these businesses are going to tell if someone is gay or not? Will there be a lie detector at the door?)

Can you imagine, however, the outcry if a business owner refused to serve a woman because their religion states that women shouldn’t be out in public uncovered and unaccompanied by a man? Or if someone refused to serve a customer because their god is the only true god so they can in good conscience serve a someone who’s Jewish, or Muslim, Christian or Buddist?

Or how about this scenario?


Bet a bunch of you are laughing…that could never happen you say. You’re being ridiculous Cindy!

But it’s something that’s in realm of possibility with these laws in place. I admit that I don’t know all the details of the law, or how it’s to be enforced. I don’t know which business situations they will be relevant to, but it doesn’t really matter. The fact that it is on the books in any way shape or form is offensive and deeply troubling.

I don’t understand the need to discriminate against anyone and while I’m not sure exactly where I stand on God as a whole, I do know that to me, the religion that is preached rarely seems to be the religion that’s practiced. If there truly is a God and we are to believe that he’s a good, kind and merciful God who just wants us to be good to one another, then how can you ever believe that this kind of behavior is anything that he would want?

If you feel the need to look down on someone for any reason…skin color, sexual orientation, looks, financial status or any of the many reasons that cause people to become bigots…maybe you should stop looking at a book written so long ago and look at yourself and figure out what it is about YOU that makes you need to hurt someone to feel better about yourself.

As you all know, I’m a writer who’s main characters are all members of the LGBT community and a bunch of authors I know are putting together a fundraiser in response to the one that’s popped up for the pizza joint in Indiana that stated they wouldn’t serve gays and lesbians. A ton of money is being raised so these people can continue to discriminate against those who don’t deserve it so surely we can raise a bunch of cash to help people who are being discriminated against!

It will be simple, make a donation to a LGBT charity and you have a chance to win something! Tons of authors are offering up prizes, including me and it will be posted on April 18th. I will post the link then and I hope you all will participate. Do something good to help people and get a chance to win a prize!

Anyway, I’m stepping down off my soapbox now. I know I’m probably gonna get some shit for this but to be honest I just don’t care. I’m tired of watching people being treated like crap because of who they love. It really makes no sense to me.

Be good to each other. Strain your brain to look outside the box and see if you can find a way to see things from a different point of view. It’s something I struggle to do every day and I’m hoping it makes me a better person.



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Some thoughts on December 1st….World Aids Day, Writing stress and a fic rec!

So, the first thought on my mind? It’s World AIDS Day today so let’s do our part to spread awareness not only about the disease itself but also about the people who are working to stop it.

Here is the link to the World Aids Day Page

Number one on your list of things that you can do  to protect yourself is know your status. Get tested. 25 percent of HIV positive people in Canada don’t know that they are infected. It’s your responsibility to take care of yourself and to do your part to protect the people you may become intimate with.

The second thing you can do is be safe. First and foremost, use a condom. Unless you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, then there should always be a condom involved when you have sex. People are not always truthful, ladies and gents. They can claim to be negative all they want, but unless you were standing right there when they were tested, is it really worth the chance?

Not to mention the other reasons to be safe…STD’s and pregnancy. Do you know how many men are paying child support to women who didn’t realize that things like drinking and medicines can play havoc with their birth control pills? And you can’t tell just by looking at most people what kind of nasty bugs might be lurking around in their bloodstreams.

And ladies, if you are planning a night out, tuck a few of those little foil squares into your purse or jacket pockets so that there is no excuse for him to not suit up if you happen to find “Mr. Right Now” at your local watering hole.

HIV is a disease that doesn’t discriminate…men and women, gay or straight…we are all equally vulnerable so please, protect yourselves.

I don’t know enough about PrEP to be for or against it yet, but I have included the link so you can look it up yourself.

Here are some facts about HIV in Canada

Spread the word, not the disease.

The second thing on my mind today is my Shifter story. I was looking back at some old blog posts and I have been struggling with this for so long. I still believe in this story so it’s frustrating that it’s taking me so long to get it out. I think because it’s so important to me, I keep getting hung up on getting it perfect and when it feels like it’s not, then it makes me stuck, like I’m wading through waist-deep mud.

I also have another story that’s started, but part of the problem is that when I’m working on it, I feel guilty about the Shifter story, like I’m neglecting a child or something.

Sigh, why did I ever decide I want to be a writer? Lol, kidding…mostly. It’s been an amazing journey so far, even with all the stress and angst that comes along with it.

I really did want to get this story submitted this year, but unless a miracle happens, that’s not in the cards. Ah well, it’s something for my New Year’s resolutions list then isn’t it?

Now for my fic rec….

A Still, Small Voice by D.W. Marchwell is a delightful story about a man who comes to realize that the people who really love you stand by you and treat you with respect. This story had an added smile for me because it take’s place in the city I grew up in and so I could picture all the places the main characters visited as I read the story. Give Noah and Oscar a chance and I bet you will be as smitten with them as I was. Check it out here at Dreamspinner Press.

As always, I’m here at Dreamspinner and also on Amazon.

And as a treat, here’s a beautiful photograph by my photographer friend Anthony Aceto!



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Where did I go and how do I find me?

It’s been forever it seems since I’ve blogged. I know I say that every time, but it’s more true than usual today. I’ve been trying to find something to write about and I’m still not sure what’s gonna end up coming out.

The release of Wrapped Up in Chains has gone so much better than I ever hoped or dreamed of. I’ve gotten amazing reviews and the sales have been fantastic. Got to number one twice on in all three of my categories and did almost as well on I was blown away by it all. Good reviews AND good sales? A writer’s dream come true I think.

The people I’ve heard from who’ve read it have made me laugh and made me cry and hearing from people who have been touched by my story is absolutely the best part of doing this, so thank you to all the people who have taken the time to contact me and let me know how much you liked it.

Now for the hard part…THE NEXT BOOK.

Yeah, that’s how it looks in my brain…like it’s shouting at me to stop being such and idiot and write already.

I know where I want this story (I haven’t got a title for it yet. I suck at titles) to go, I just haven’t figured out yet how I’m going to get it there. And in a story, it really is all about the journey.

I’m feeling a lot of pressure to get this one perfect, but it’s mostly coming from myself. After how well Wrapped has done, it feels like this obligation to do something even more amazing to follow-up on it and you wanna know a secret? I’m never sure that I can.

I love the premise of the story and the reactions of my pre-readers have all been very positive but as usual, I’m my own worst critic. It’s one of those things that only I can fix and I’m not quite sure how to do it.

I’ll get there eventually. I need to stop procrastinating and just sit down and write. It’s as simple as that…and as complicated. It’s kind of like when you can’t sleep and you lay there telling yourself to just close your eyes and the harder you try to sleep, the more you can’t. It’s frustrating and pisses me off like you wouldn’t believe. But like not being able to sleep, at some point, you do just drift off and do what you need to do and this story will get there too.

I think I need to stop and go back to my roots…write something for the fandom I started in and hopefully kick-start my brain back into gear. The thing about writing fanfiction is, you have a whole universe that’s already built for you and a whole group of people who already know the characters you’re writing about and all you have to do is tell another story or another version of their story. It’s sort of like talking to an old friend. Old friends already know everything about you and you don’t have to explain every little detail to them. They just get it.

Anyway, that’s where my brain is at…at least the writer part of it. I’ll try to not go so long without blogging again. I never shut up in real life so you think it wouldn’t be so hard to come up with a subject to talk about!

Okay, I’m gonna rec one of the first m/m novels that I ever read.

Crying for the Moon by Sarah Madison is a wonderful story about a Vampire who moves to a remote town with a group of friends who just happen to be werewolves. The first day he’s there, he meets a man who is everything he ever wanted but is terrified to have. The story made me laugh and made me cry and I was hooked from beginning to end. The supernatural world is my favorite genre and this story didn’t let me down for one second.

You can get it here at Dreamspinner: and also at

I’d like to take this opportunity to remind you to buy your ebooks from the publisher if you can as this means more money going to the authors and less going for third-party fees.

As always, you can find all my stuff here at Dreamspinners: as well as at Amazon.


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My world is still frozen and I have a big mouth….

Feb 24th…4 more days until the end of the most dreaded month, at least for those of us who don’t have the strange obsession with risking life and limb to slip around on pieces of fiberglass and wood in freezing temperatures. I’m much better at the whole “sitting by the fire with spiked hot chocolate while reading…or writing…or doing anything that doesn’t require being outside. But I have to be honest…I’m tired of being stuck in the house.

So, a few things to chat about today…the first one being Arizona and it’s attempts to put equality back 50 years. The legislators in this fine state have put forth a law that allows business owners to discriminate against the LGBT community based on religious beliefs. Well, doesn’t this just open a bucket of worms.

So, you think that gay couple is the very example of sin so you can show them out of your restaurant. Lesbians want you to provide the flowers for their wedding? How disgusting…kick them to the curb.

But wait how about this one…this woman wants to work for you but your precious religious beliefs tell you that women belong at home cooking and cleaning and serving their man (hello Pat Robertson) so you can refuse to hire her based on your religious beliefs.

Couldn’t happen you say? Well here’s the problem. The people who want to make laws based on religious beliefs have a tendency to forget that there is more than one kind of religion in the world and that each one comes with its own set of rules and regulations that their followers are supposed to adhere to. When you say that people can discriminate based on what their religion says that means ALL religions.

Maybe someone should start a religion that says legislators can only be allowed in public if they crawl. Lets see how they feel about being humiliated in public because someone’s god supposedly says it’s okay to treat them that way.

And before you get all upset and in my face, I’d like you to think about how you’d feel if you were forced to follow ALL the rules set out in the bible and not only adhere to the ones that you think are important.

Oh man, I’m running into dangerous territory here…let’s change the subject for now.

How about another topic completely relevant to me…reviews.

Once again over on Goodreads we have the case of a writer behaving badly. Someone wrote a bad review of their story and the author and their friends bullied the reviewer until she pulled her review.

Now, as a writer I know this is unacceptable behavior. Bullying in any form is just wrong and I don’t support it in any way. It’s totally a reviewers right to say whatever they want about something they read and the writer has to just sit back and take it. They put their stuff out there and once they do the work is public domain. Shut up and quit complaining because someone completely trashed something that you poured your heart and soul into creating. I know the rules and I follow them because I value what little writing career I have.

However, I do have one thing to say. I also write reviews and never once has it occurred to me to say something mean-spirited or personal about a story or it’s author, no matter how bad it is. I make sure to keep my comments and critiques to what’s written on the page (or my computer, whatever) and I try to be constructive instead of hurtful. I know that I probably hurt some people’s feelings when I don’t like their story but it’s never what I set out to do. I guess because I know how it feels to be on the other side of the review…

And maybe, just maybe, people writing reviews should remember that just because it’s their right to say what they want (and I’m definitely not arguing that) it doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t stop and think about HOW they say it and why. I get lots of bad reviews and I know that I probably deserve a lot of the criticism I get. Writing never stops being a learning process and I’m the first to admit that I still have a lot to learn. But I will learn a lot more by being told how I can do things better rather than just being told it sucked.

Too often people get attention by being mean. They defend it by saying they are just “blunt and honest”. I’m a big fan of both bluntness and honesty, I just think that you can be both without being cruel.

Anyway, I’m not reccing anyone today. I’ve said a lot of things that will probably get me into trouble and I don’t want to bring wrath down on anyone’s head by association.

Oh, one last thing. The Olympics are over and Canada came home 25 medals richer. While I still don’t believe that Russia deserved to be hosting the best in the world, I supported the athletes from all over the world who participated and I am very proud of the way Canada’s athletes represented us!!!


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Merry Christmas Baby!

Merry Christmas Baby

So, here it is, two days before Christmas and while my old Christmas fever isn’t quite what it used to be, I’m a little better than I have been in the last few years.

I finished going through the first edit of Wrapped Up in Chains and it actually kind of made me happy. I can see the mistakes I’m NOT making like I used to and the re-writes I had to do were minimal. And I also liked the fact that Brian, the editor, made comments about the things he liked instead of just pointing out my stupidity. (trust me, I know where I fall on that scale most days.)

Now I’m just waiting for the first edit for Breaking Cupid’s Curse. Good thing it’s shorter and won’t take as long to go through.

My WIP is coming along nicely, although it’s taking longer than I hoped. I think I need some more free time and I’m also thinking that after Christmas it might be time to consider giving up job #2. My house is a disaster and this 7 days a week thing is starting to wear me down. If I take on one more kid in my dayhome, that covers the money aspect and although I’ll miss getting out of the house on the weekends, I think that I need the break. We’ll see…

So, is everyone ready for the big day? My gifts are all bought. And some are even wrapped! I best get to the rest of them or I will find myself wrapping like crazy tomorrow night after we get home from my brothers. Hmmm, we are going there Christmas Day too…in our PJs. I wonder if he knows I’m expecting some sort of breakfast with bacon??? No, not really. With the big turkey dinner Christmas day, I’ll be happy with toast and lots of coffee.

I wonder if my almost-teen-age daughter will be up early on Christmas morning or if her hormones will have her trying to sleep till noon? I think I’ll enjoying getting her ass our of bed about 7am…just to bug her. I’m sure all her presents will make up for the indignity of having her blankets pulled off and the bells ringing in her ear!

And now comes my little reminder(steps up onto soapbox):

If you can, please remember the less fortunate this holiday season. There are so many people out there who have no one to spend their holiday with for whatever reason. If you know someone who’s going to be alone, why not set one more place at your table?

And there are many charitable organizations who can put any donation you make to good use. Of course, being me, I encourage you to donate to equality-friendly charities that recognize that EVERYONE who is in need deserves our help. I like to donate gifts for older kids because everyone what’s to give a child a toy, but some people forget that you don’t stop wanting presents just because you turned twelve.

And helping out someone in need is a gift you are giving yourself for Christmas. There is nothing that warms your heart and soul like giving someone a smile during the holidays.

(steps down off soapbox)

To all of my family, you know I love you more than anything. To my friends, old and new, I’m blessed to have you in my life. You are all on the top of my list of things I need to be happy in my life. Merry Christmas.

Now, I do have a fic rec of sorts. First of all, if you get a chance, pick up the Dreamspinner Christmas anthology for this year. The assortment of stories is an amazing collection of short story smiles. You can get it here:

Christmas Wish by BG Thomas is a story about getting what you didn’t know you wanted to for Christmas. Sometimes, the thing you want the most turns out to be a big disappointment and the gift you love the most is the one you never knew you wanted. This story is smart and funny and sexy and I highly recommend it if you are looking for a cure for the holiday blues.

Get it here:

And here at Amazon:

And of course, I’m here:

And here:

Merry Christmas everyone. I hope you all have the best possible holiday.


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I am a bad, bad blogger….

I haven’t posted since my birthday and I keep meaning to but then I starting thinking about what I want to talk about and I get stuck. Anyone who knows me knows that I am never at a loss for words…until I have to write something witty and charming and generally not look like an idiot. Not my best subject.

My writing is coming slowly and I’m a little disappointed about how hard it’s being. I thought that once I got the acceptance from Dreamspinner my nerves would go away and I would write like the wind.

Yah, not so much. I have a very specific place I want this story to go and you’d think that would make it easier but it really doesn’t. This is the first thing I’ve written for publishing that isn’t fandom related in some way and I think therein lies the problem. When you write something fannish, you have a definite idea of your characters in your head and how they should act and what they should look like. They have a world that they live in and all I have to do is write them in that world.

This one doesn’t have that set of rules. I have to make it up as I go along and that’s a lot harder. You would think that not having rules would make it easier, but it doesn’t.

Plus the fact that this store is a shifter story makes it more difficult. The genre does come with rules that have to be addressed and I’m worried about not getting that part right.

That being said, however, I can’t imagine it as anything else. The picture I saw that gave me the inspiration just won’t let me go and to me it says wolf-shifter.

I am aware that there are several people who are waiting for me to finish this and are more than willing to kick my ass to do it. My brother, my mother and my Aunt have all been cajoling me to get this finished and I have to say, that make’s me so happy.

I am still working on my getting healthy thing, although that would be a whole lot easier without this cold I’ve developed. I’m hoping it won’t last long because it’s very difficult to walk very far when you’re coughing up a lung.

And I’m hoping that my Dr’s appointment on Tuesday can shed some light on why I’m so freakin tired all the time. I suspect I’m low on iron (again) and my blood sugar could be a little elevated. Also, maybe my body is just getting tired of carrying around all this extra weight and the diet and exercise are the only things that can help with that.

Deanna and Ty are some newer friends of mine who have been so instrumental in helping me stay motivated and I thank them so much for not giving up. My family are all cautiously optimistic that I’m going to be able to keep this up and my husband has gotten on board and been helpful too. My daughter is not really thrilled about the whole healthy eating thing, but hey, it’s for her own good so she can suck it up.

Friday night I attended my niece’s 18th birthday party and when I stand back and look at her I’m so damned proud and amazed by her. She’s grown into the beautiful, kindhearted, smart, funny woman and I know that she is going to go far in life. I’m so glad I get to watch that happen. I think it’s kind of funny that she celebrated in the same dive bar I first drank and so did her mom. It’s like passing on a legacy, lol.

Over on FB my dearest friend Mike just celebrated his 62nd birthday. Now I wouldn’t normally announce his age but he had serious heart surgery a few years back and until he got it, we weren’t sure he was going to make it to his next birthday. I can only hope that I get to celebrate a lot more with him now. If you ask him, he has two birthdays…the day of his birth in October and the day of his re-birth in July. I love to celebrate both days.

Oh, and congrats to New Jersey for becoming the 14 state in the union to recognize same-sex marriage. One day this will be an issue that isn’t one anymore. Until then, I will celebrate every new stride that’s taken in the right direction.

Of course, to get me through this terrible drought with my writing, I have been reading. And of course, I have to share. I know some folks wonder why I recommend books that aren’t mine. I’ve been told that all I’m doing is creating more competition for myself.

The truth is, I love to read. I’ve mentioned that before. It takes me away to places I’ve never been and will probably never get to. And when I read a story that makes me smile, or cry, or get angry or all three, I have to share it with someone. I want every writer who’s trying hard to get the recognition they deserve.

Also, I’m hoping for (but not counting on) good karma. I keep hoping that if I’m kind to others they will be kind to me. After all, isn’t the Golden Rule really how we should live our lives? I try to treat people the way I want to be treated. I’m not always successful, but it doesn’t stop me from trying.

On that note, I have a fic rec for you. My Only Sunshine by Rowan McAllister is a heartwarming story set on a ranch. Tanner is lost and broken and needs help desperately. He’s willing to work hard to get it. Mason is a man who gave up the life he made in the city to come home and help out at home…the home his father kicked him out of when he found out his son was gay.

Coming back to take care of the man who despises you tends to drain the life out of your heart but then Mason finds Tanner. Tanner is sweet, caring and everything Mason ever dreamed of but he’d not sure how to mesh the two lives he’s living together.

This story had me hoping and cheering for these two men who needed each other so desperately and I will be looking for more from this author.

Find it here:

And here:

And as always, you can find my stuff here:

And here:

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Wow, RL is keeping me busy…but here I am!

Writing and working. It’s a never-ending circle for me. So, here’s what’s going on.

First of all, Dreamspinner Press has picked up Wrapped up in Chains. I am so excited and I can’t wait to see it in paperback. I have a few ideas that I’m exploring for the cover and now it’s just the long wait till I begin edits. Look for it coming in March or April!

Second of all, I’ve decided it’s time to get a little more healthy. I need to do it for me. I don’t like how I’m feeling these days and I know most of it is because of the weight I’ve put back on. I’m more than a little ashamed of how far off the wagon I’ve fallen but I’m determined to get back on and ride it to the end this time. I have some twitter buds that are encouraging me alone and I think it will help a lot.

So, the plan is healthier eating and more exercise. Joining the gym isn’t an option for me at this point so all I can do is walk my ass off (hopefully) and go from there.

I love fruits and veggies and I don’t know how I ever got out of the habit of having them make up most of my diet. It’s really hard to kick your own ass, so I will settle for facepalming and leave it at that.

And writing? Well, I wrote a story for the Dreamspinner Valentine Anthology and submitted it, but I won’t hear back about that one until after the deadline passes in October.

Also, my shifter story took a left turn somewhere and I’ve had to go back and do some re-writing. I’m confident that I’m on the right track for now and it’s seems to be flowing right along.

I also have a couple of fandom things on the go I need to get caught up on if I ever find five minutes.

So, there you have it. Two jobs, 7 days a week plus my family, writing, editing and exercising. If going around in circles in my mind burned calories I’d weight a hundred pounds soaking wet. Alas, it doesn’t and I’ll have to do it the old-fashioned way.

And of course, I still need time to read if I want to retain my sanity. No, really, reading is still my first love and my life would be so empty without it.

I also have my brother’s engagement party coming up this weekend. He has managed to find himself a wonderful woman and the way she makes him smile is amazing. I’m so proud and happy to be welcoming her to our family I don’t even know how to say it. Why she wants my dorky little brother who smells, I have no idea but she seems fairly determined to have him, so I wish her all the luck! Just hope she realizes that she’s stuck with the rest of us too!

Oh, also this weekend, I’m going to Edmonton Expo. It’s a sort of comic-con and I am going to get my picture taken with Captain Jack Harkness himself, John Barrowman…if I don’t faint first.

Seriously though, I want to shake the hand of the person who is one of the reasons I finally decided to give writing a real chance. If I don’t cry it will be a miracle and I’m sure he’ll think I am nuts!

And my daughter is going to get her picture taken with Karl Urban. I’ll let you all know if he’s as ridiculously gorgeous in person as he is on the screen.

So, that’s catching everyone up with me. Maybe next time I will tease you with an excerpt from Wrapped up in Chains.

And now for the fic rec!

Wolf Moon by Ethan Stone is a wonderful shifter story about coming to terms with yourself so that you can be who you need to be. Heat pounding action and a house fill of shifters make for a compelling read. Check it out here at Dreamspinner Press:

and here at Amazon:

Of course, you can always find my stuff here:

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