So, I’ve tried to keep my opinions to myself on this blog. Controversy kills, so they say, but with everything going on in the Supreme court in the next little while, I can’t hold my tongue.
The first thing I want to point out is that I’m Canadian. I live in the middle of the Prairies and marriage equality has been a reality here for a while now. I’d also like to point out that we don’t have gay marriage or straight marriage…it’s just marriage…no qualifiers. And I’m damned proud of that.
People keep asking me, why does equality matter to me? What made me take up the cause of LGBT rights? Do I know a lot of gay people? Nope. Until a few years ago, I’d never met an openly gay man or woman and as far as I know, no one in my family is gay, so I guess people feel like it’s okay to ask.
But really it’s not. You shouldn’t have to ask. It’s a cause that everyone should be rallying around until there isn’t a cause anymore. Everyone should be outraged that any person in our society can still be treated like a second class citizen by anyone simply because of who they love.
When you think about it, can you imagine anything more ridiculous than being hated for loving someone? When I say it out loud, it sounds even worse and I wonder how those spewing their bigotry don’t hear how horrible they sound to so many people.
I just watched a video where this woman says that gays and lesbians should be locked in separate pens behind electric fences so that they can’t reproduce. All I could do was laugh and shake my head. Because gays and lesbians are running around having sex with each other to make more gay babies. It’s kind of funny when you think about it though. Her train of thought could be said to make the case that people are born gay instead of choosing that “lifestyle”.
So, why this cause? Why not the still horrible treatment of minorities or women’s rights? I don’t know. Maybe I think they are all related. If it’s okay to treat one segment of the population with disrespect and keep them in fear, then what’s to stop it from spreading?
And maybe it’s because I can sort of relate. No, I’m not a lesbian. What I am is a fat woman living in a world that prizes beauty above all else. And I know there’s big differences. Most of you would probably point out that I can diet and exercise more and be skinny like everyone thinks I should be and I guess that’s true.
But the thing that’s the same? It’s nobodies business but mine. I’m not hurting anyone by being overweight except myself. And don’t give me the lines about being a burden on the health system. You can do that on the day that you don’t drink, don’t smoke, don’t drive a car…all things that can lead to health problems. I haven’t been to the doctor in the last 6 months and only once in the last year. I’m not a burden on anything.
It’s the same with who you love. What goes on in your bedroom is no one else’s business but yours and that’s how it should be. You want to stop hearing about equality and gay rights? Then don’t make it an issue. Just do the right thing, let everyone live their lives and stop trying to tell people who they can have in their lives and in their beds.
Is it being shoved in your face all the time right now? Yes, of course it is. It’s the only way to get the people who should be listening and fighting to pay attention. There’s that old saying “squeaky wheel gets the grease”. This is us being squeaky. I know my friends who are gay would much rather be focusing on other things…like living their lives, spending time with their families and NOT thinking about whether or not their loved ones are going to have to fight to get the help they need if something bad happens to them.
There’s another saying and I’m not sure how it goes exactly, but basically it says that someone else getting the same rights that you already have doesn’t take anything away from you. Nothing has ever been more true. It shouldn’t matter to you that the husband of Jack in the next office has the right to the same benefits that your husband or wife would have if you had a heart attack and ended up in the hospital or died. It’s not hurting you if Janice down the street doesn’t have to fight to see her wife in the hospital after a horrible accident because in the eyes of the law, their 18-year marriage is just as valid as yours is.
Human beings can be a greedy bunch. When something is special to us, we want to keep it that way. Same sex marriage doesn’t diminish the more “traditional” form, it makes it more important. Being married is so important that these amazing people are willing to fight for the right to do it. To me, that’s something that should make you smile and hold the person you love tighter because you are lucky enough to have that already.
Anyway, I hope I haven’t offended anyone. This is just something I feel so passionate about and I think it’s my responsibility to uphold my beliefs and try to spread them around.
And to all my friends down in the States who are waiting for the outcome of these court hearings, I hope you get what you desire and what you deserve. It’s time for the Supreme Court to settle this matter and I hope they find the guts to do it.
Hugs my friends.